Thanks for the advice everyone...I kind of knew I shouldnt give the letter to him, so I havent yet. But I have decided I need to tell him how I have been feeling lately. I am going to put our some suggestions for us to try and work on. I think I am going to show him the Marriage Builders website and let him know that is where I would like us to work from.

Lostlove...yes I have done a lot of thinking about all the questions you have asked...
**I think he is showing me he cares about me by showing lots of domestic support, which is one of his emotional needs.
**I am showing domestic support too to him and I know he appreciates it. I do SF need also, at least once a week, but need to work on doing it more.
**I think my H needs to open up more to me..it will help me to understand if what I am doing is right and also let me into his life a little.

BUT---I think I might have discovered something. First of all, the this weekend and the beginning of the week, I had been a little withdrawn, only trying to meet H needs towards the end of the day because I was angry and upset. He seemed withdrawn too, which only made things harder...well, yesterday morning, I got up with a new attitude. When H got up, I went up to him (first gave him a little time...I know when he first wakes up is not a good time to approach him...) and gave him a hug...said soemtimes this just feels nice and kissed him on the cheek. I felt so connected to him again...I felt the love moving thru my body..it was weird. Then, the whole day seemed to go so much better. H was having conversation with me, being nice...just the overall morale of our R was good. It went on until we went to bed last nite!! WOW!!
So, I decided, maybe that is one of his LL/EN too!! I see him go up to the kids I have in my daycare and ask them for hugs all the time...maybe me keeping them from him was a bad thing?? Well, I think it might be something I do on a daily basis or at least every other day...dont want to push too much too fast. But I will do it at different times each day...just to feel that connection between us again!!
I did it today before he left for work and said, "It just felt so good yesterday to do this, I wanted to try it again today." I got no response, but he didnt seem bothered by it either...

Ok, so I will change my letter a little bit and then let you all read it...make if more about how I feel and what I am going to do to improve our M. I really would like to have him read it, because he gets more out of things when he reads them...then we can talk a bit...