I don't know your H, but I do know that you don't want to make him feel defensive. Remember, you can only control yourself, you can't control him. I wish he would go to the C with you, it could really help so much. Hmmm...Would he go alone? What about a priest or minister? I'm lost, I can't help. I just don't want you to put him on the defence. In his mind, he may be trying really hard, just not the same way you are. He's there, right?
My H moved out AGAIN and back into her house. Even took my girls to her house over the weekend when she was in town and I was out of town at the wedding. They had a little bbq with her 2 boys and my 3 girls. I was physically sick when D8 told me about it even though her daddy asked her not to tell me. Can you believe any man could be such a jerk as to ask his 8 year old daughter to lie for him?
Wait.
Each experience in life has formed me, become part of me, made me stronger.