could you experiment for a while withtout asking h to give you a list of his love languages or telling him that you'll be working at being "the best w ever"?
Sometimes things have more of an impact when they are not preceded by "I'm going to start doing this"...if you just start..it may peek his interest...saying you are going to start may peek his expectations.
More importantly...you've got it right! get back to you. it is more of what works!
