lostlove..you are so right...he seemed to be more interested im me when I was doing my own thing instead of waiting for him all the time.
So, here is my new plan...I am going to ask him to number in order his love languages and emotional needs and tell him I am going to work real hard to be the best wife ever. Then I am going to keep track each day of what I do to fulfill his needs, while aslo tracking what needs of mine he fills. I sometimes think he feeds my needs the way he wants his to be filled...anyways...then after about a month, I am going to ask him how I am doing and then tell him one of my needs that I would like him to feed. Then let it be, if he does it, great, if not, keep feeding his needs and try again in another month. I got this idea from the back of the 5 Love Languages book.
Another thing I am going to do is keep our convo light...Im not going to try to make conversation anymore. I will only ask questions to things I need to know, like did you feed the dogs. Questions that need no elaboration and just need a one word answer. That way I cant be disappointed. If I want to ask him other questions, I will just write them down in my journaling book and maybe some day downt the road, he will finally open up to me.
I guess I just need to have NO EXPECTATIONS, because then there is no way for me to get hurt. I have to get my own life and keep it...a friend and I discovered thru talking that he seems to miss me or talk to me more when I am gone more or showing him how independent I can be....Since he has said he wanted to work on us, I have not done much of that anymore...big mistake!!
So, I guess even though I have realy been thinking about just giving up, I can still just work on myself and see how things go????
