I went to the counselor last night and asked him the same question about talking about what happened. I told him my H just acts like nothing ever happened. He said that is how most men are. Instead of talking about things, they just let them go and move on. That is exactly how my H is...so I guess we just move on...unless like lostlove said, something comes up that I need to address, try it.
This now seems to be so much harder than it was when I didnt know what was going to happen with us. Then I wasnt afraid to say much of anything, because I felt I had already lost him anyways. Now, what things can or should we talk about? I try to tell him that we really need to communicate much more than we did before. He needs to tell me when he's upset with me or when he is feeling like he is unhappy or WHATEVER...so that I know this time and will not just let things go and get back to where they were before.
I have read lots of post in pieceing and its been said so many times how the fear of things going bad, or getting scared every time H is in bad mood, or trying to get that trusting feeling back. I sometimes just wish he knew all that I have gone through...and yes, I know he has too, but I wonder if it is still going on for him like it is for me??
I am working at feeding his needs and someone else here started a post tracking those needs, which sounds like a good idea. I first have to get a good idea of which ones are the top for him. I would also like for him to see what my needs are and maybe give him examples of each one...things that I would like and how often..or would this be too soon??
So many questions...I guess all I can do is take it "ONE DAY AT A TIME"!!!
