I like reading about "TheNewChris" on his thread so it is all in one place.
I like Nop's advice. Granted TheNewChris has some valid feelings that he feels like Mrs. TNC is not doing enough.
TNC, My W had breast cancer (lumpectomy, radiation, drugs for 5 years) and was really down for almost 7 years.
TheNewChris wrote: << I fully believe that people should not comment on hypothetical circumstances in which they have not been personally involved in the past.>>>
To add to Nop's comment << What would you be feeling right now if the roles were reversed >> I say what about empathy for what tour W felt or is still fealing?
http://www.m-w.com/dictionary.htm empathy: the action of understanding, being aware of, being sensitive to, and "vicariously experiencing the feelings, thoughts, and experience of another" of either the past or present without having the feelings, thoughts, and experience fully communicated in an objectively explicit manner.
TNC, this is not fusion and I guess you do have some capacity for empathy. Does your W understand how much empathy you have for her many issues / situations.
