Quote: if you don't mind my asking, how is your C's view of your M 'skewed'? And how does she try to convince you that D is the best answer?
My C is worried that my W is having an affair or that conditions are ripe for one for her. That doesn't sound like pro-M to me. That sounds like an alarmist who is trying to get me to go crazy looking for signs and snooping on my W. Also, she said back 6 months ago when I first started that she can tell if a M has a chance of succeeding... and recently she has said things like, "I don't know if you are going to have any success with this woman (W)" and "she seems like she's content to drag everyone else down with her instead of having to make the difficult decisions" and "it sounds like you're roommates and friends instead of spouses, and I doubt that anything will change unless you get marriage counseling." Maybe I'm just being pessimistic.
The thing is, my C sees me trying different things to be better and "fix" things... and she (like some of my friends) has said, "I see great progress with your own self in the last 6 months, but I don't see any progress in the marriage. It's more like you try something and then give up because your W doesn't respond the way that you want her to. How much longer are you going to try without having another plan?" I don't know if she means exit plan or other plan. She confuses me all the time.
Anyway, maybe I'm the one who is seriously messed up. Maybe I want too much and will never be happy. I haven't figured out what's going on, and the C hasn't really helped me grow up.
