Thanks Lou for your kind words. About teaching, I've discovered the best way for someone to learn is to let them discover it themselves (heh, maybe that's what H thinks he's doing!! ) Like which Dave's? tip for teaching a kid to ride a two-wheeler. A teacher's job is to provide a setting that makes it possible for the student to learn. The hard part is knowing just how much 'pressure' or guidance to apply, and to be patient enough not to jump in and show them the answer.

I was thinking...I'm defensive by nature, and H has brought the worst out in me in that department. Definately something to work on. I remember one of Jenny's posts where she mentioned how she felt releaved when her H left on one of his trips, and I know very well that sense of relief.

I'm going to be myself. The singing, exhuberant, person who gets enthusiastic about anything. Not to let H's crabbiness stop me. I've toned myself down a lot over the years, since it seems to annoy H. But I'm taking my life back. (keep reminding me of that, huh? )