FF, you sound incredibly patient to me... I honestly don't see how you can find the internal strength to put up with this immature behavior.
Also, I want to make sure you understand that all of these suggestions about what you might do are not meant to imply that you're doing anything wrong. It's more a case of trying to crack the code and find out what will get through to him.
When I was suggesting to edit him out, I didn't mean to be ugly and bitchy about it. I meant to meet his irrationality with utter neutrality, to refuse to take his bait, to stop asking him what you can do to be better, how you can please him, how to put the dishes in the dishwasher, etc. To refuse to engage in combat.
His additude seems to be that you (FF) deliberately do things around the house WRONG, and refuse to be TAUGHT how to do them RIGHT and you KNOW how this annoys him, and if you could just TRY to be better and do more then he wouldn't have to suffer so much! And you just do it to bug the crap out of him! <all done with much deep sighing and sagging of the shoulders>
I'm reminded of the verse from Alice in Wonderland (or is it from Through the Looking Glass)? He seems to think that you deliberately set out to annoy him.
Quote: Speak roughly to your little boy and beat him when he sneezes He only does it to annoy Because he knows it teases!
Do you have any inkling as to what his agenda is? The three-year thing is curious for sure.
