Quote: I asked 'Does your not having sex with me have anything to do with me not wanting to have any more kids?'... H laughed, and gave me a hug. The convo ended there
Do y'all use birth control (not natural family planning, but pills, etc.)? Does he feel that when you said you didn't want more children, you were in fact saying you didn't want sex any more?
He does seem to dole his words out like they were worth $5.00 apiece except when he's doling out criticism.
I'm still curious about this:
Quote: Me earlier:Does HE want to be the child and resents the fact that you have other actual children that need to be mothered? Does he want to be mothered, but doesn't feel it's culturally acceptable or manly to admit that? What is he like when he's sick? Strong and stoic or baby-ish and whiny?
Also, I thought honey's comment re her H was very revealing
Quote: My H admitted ... that at one time he would walk in the door and begin surveying the room, looking for something to b*tch about. .... This was when we were having sex a handful of times per year. I asked why he did that and he could not give an answer.."I don't know, I just remember feeling really on edge when I walked in the door and wanting something to pick on."
I've felt this way sometimes, but I'm self-aware enough now not to give in to this, but to ask myself what's bugging ME before I say anything. It strikes me that your H feels justified and righteous when he criticizes you.
