FF wrote:
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Finally, I sort of 'cornered' him, and asked 'What have I done that makes you so resentful of me'

H laughed. 'How am I suposed to know?'
M 'You mean just avoiding me, and using porn to mb instead of ML to me is just normal?'
H 'I couldn't tell you what it is, I don't know'.
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So he is not denying that he resents you.

I am sorry, but I have to disagree with ignoring his core issue(s). If I had done that, MrsNOP and I would likely NOT have recovered. If MrsNOP had ignored my core issue (sex) we most certainly would not have made it. Deal with the long term issues you must.

Both of you have some long suffered issues with each other. No matter what comes first, sex or relationship, those issues will have to be addressed for your relationship to heal.

All the best,
-NOPkins-

I will ferret out an affair at any opportunity.

-An affair is the embodiment of entitlement, fueled by resentment and lack of respect.
-An infidel will remain unreachable so long as their sense of entitlement exceeds their ability to reason.