It's one thing to be LD and truly not interested in sex..that I can work up some empathy on and I'm willing to compromise and negotiate.
But if Mr.HP had been doing himself all along and purposely avoiding me, though he knew I wanted a sex life, I'd have blown a gasket. That is a conscious choice to avoid you and use porn instead. I may even understand the reasons he does it (no pressure, faster, avoids the No Intimacy issue that is currently present in your M, etc) but it can't stay like that forever. Unless he would prefer to be a single man who is dating his computer.
I don't think confrontational is the way to go with your H, since that is one of his triggers that he has asked you to stop doing, but I'd definitely bring it up and pronto.
Good luck; what a sticky topic.
Ok, that last line was supposed to make you smile at my wittiness and punniness. Just trying to lighten the mood..
Seriously good luck and let us know how the convo turns out.
