Quote: If H is so anti-social and reclusive and "not into" being a part of society and not able to gain a pharmacist license, then why don't you move back to the US and save him from himself?
I'm not really sure what you mean??
But I don't want to paint such a ugly picture of H.
He is a practicing pharmacist, just doesn't have his own pharmacy. Socially, he's certianly not a wizard, but he does all right. Just not willingly. Given the choice, he'd rather stay home and read a book than go and sit and talk with people. There are quite a few people here who are more than greatful for the work he does for them, as an 'advocate' of organ art in this country, even though (probably because) he's not a player himself.
He just places very high demands on himself, and on those around him. I'm beginning to see that his pointing out messes around the house is not really a way of putting me down, it's just that to him, cleaning the house is woman's work, and since he's more aware of it than I, he's going to point it out to me. If I could somehow get him to realize that doing it after I've been chasing after the kids, driving for 2 hrs and teaching for 4 is not going to get a wonderful response from me, or better yet, that picking up the mess himself instead of pointing it out to me would create better harmony around here...
It's as though he's a child socially, and doesn't have the skills to relate to people, so he tries to controll them instead. He's been doing much better with the kids lately, D6 will even go and hug and kiss him now, something she wouldn't do a year ago .
I just wonder sometimes if it's worth all the work...(not really giving up yet...)
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