Oh, FF you are SOOO right-- I do have your situation mixed up with cinema-- yikes! is my face red. One forms mental pictures of the people on the board and attempts to place them in a context... somehow I had placed her in Finland. I'm SURE there aren't TWO of you in Finland! I'm gonna have to write out a program for myself to tell the players apart. Most humble and embarrassed apologies....

Still, if his dad is an alcoholic, there are also behaviors associated with being the child of one (my bf and I are both children of alcoholics). Some of the characteristics are not knowing what is normal, boundary problems, shame, perfectionism.

The part I wrote about how you seem to be telling yourself you have to be way tot "nice" to him is still true. He doesn't seem to be very nice to you.

I'll go sit in the corner for a while and clear my head.