Thanks Lilli, IHJ, HD for your words of support.

It has been hard having company while H has been like this...but it has also given me some resolve not to put up with this anymore.

JJ, your reminder on another thread about the hard line you took, and your once again great analogy about the kids in the playground got to me too. I just wish H+I were in the same house together more often so there would be time to deal with this...avoidance doesn't get us anywhere, of course. I'm off next week, so I guess I know what I'll be doing over vacation...