Ask H for a piece of chocolate... and then go get it from his mouth.
I don't know if "selfish" is the right word. You want something that "only H" can provide in your M, and you're not getting it. That's not selfish to me. That's "controlling" of H to not provide it after repeated requests. Just my opinion.
You have to just keep telling H that you want to ML. Maybe you should MB while lying next to him and see his reaction. I know, for me, that lying next to my W while MB is a turn on to HER as well as to me. And, you're married... so there should be no "issues" against MB in your H's presence. Just another thought to try to help you rekindle that flame.
