Quote: What do you think it would be like if you saw each other in person and had the details of daily life to contend with every day? Would that help or hinder the HD/LD dynamics?
My H just got his travelling job this spring. I think it was helpful that he traveled because in person he was easily able to put barriers between us with the kids or the TV etc. I think phone conversations can be more productive because the absence of eye contact and body language makes it easier to really speak your mind. It was also helpful to my "differentiation" to have him gone because it made it easier for me to discover that I could lead a happy life without him if that was the choice that I wanted to make. I think it was helpful for my H in that he discovered the exact extent of his emotional dependence on me and therefore the exact extent to which he needed to as he put it "grow up".
"Tell me, what is it you plan to do with your one wild and precious life?" - Mary Oliver
