I'm wondering how the dynamics of your R with Mr JJ would be different if you lived under the same roof all the time. I'm not familiar with your history-- has he always traveled a lot? I remember that when my husband used to travel, I felt like our phone convos were some of our best. We related extremely well on the phone. (We never did have phone sex.) But I'm thinking about your pattern of intimacy on the phone, and the phone calls where you tell him something, then he reacts by saying something else and/or hanging up, then he calls back later after he has thought through his response, then leaves you to think THAT over. What do you think it would be like if you saw each other in person and had the details of daily life to contend with every day? Would that help or hinder the HD/LD dynamics?
