Hi there Jenny ( I like JustJenny…it is more you than GeneralMojo )
I agree with the others, there are a lot of red flags here. I think he is rankling against the label ‘LD’. This could be in part due to fears of inadequacy and not measuring up to ‘normal’.
He admitted to you some time ago that he was LD. He made some huge strides in admitting to you his jealousy and other reasons that exacerbated his LD nature. From his perspective, he did not get the requisite respect or acceptance from you for doing so. Is it possible that he is now waffling all over the place because, having told you the truth, and finding that you are not ready to hear it, he is afraid that he is going to lose you?
Granted this does not excuse his childish behavior or his emotional unavailability all these years. It also does not excuse his cruelty to you. But I do believe that he loves you.
He is talking about a separation. I think he is just really tired of being put through the wringer. Maybe you guys need to take a little break from all this relationship stuff. Even Schnarch says that you cannot spend your life in crucibles. Both of you have grown so much over these past few months. You need time to reach equilibrium and regroup.
I know its hard, but can you just give him some time and some space?
