Quote: In a nice way, because I care for you in my own simple anonymous way, I am trying to tell you not to actually become a hardass hard to please no frills woman because of your situation. There is a very real tenderness about you that I think, rightly or wrongly, is being threatened. I want to see it protected
I didn't take offense because you said this, but it did make me cry. The notion that I am in any way capable of being a hard*ss is obviously fairly absurd. It's just that I feel incapable of dealing with this situation one way or the other as the nice woman that I am. You have to understand. My H was MEAN to me because of his own insecurities. I really didn't do anything to deserve the treatment I received. Because of this I don't know if I will be more likely to become tough and bitter if I stay in this relationship or if I leave it. It might be impossible for me to allow myself to be truly vulnerable in relationship with my H. I might not be that brave. I might only be brave enough to leave.
"Tell me, what is it you plan to do with your one wild and precious life?" - Mary Oliver
