Quote: it is the old 'principal of least interest' where the party with the least interest in any transaction holds all the cards. Works for marrage, dating, and even buying a car.
I googled the "principle of least interest" and found this. It's very thought provoking when applied to marriage:
Least Interest Principle
Description In any relationship, the person who has the least interest in continuing the relationship (i.e. has the best walk-away strategy) has the greatest power.
Example If I am thinking vaguely about selling my house and the buyer is desperately keen on buying it, I have no need at all to reduce my price. I could even invent 'another interested person' to help crank the price up.
So what? Using it Develop your walk-away position. Ensure you can leave at any time. Try to damage the other person’s ability to walk away. Watch out for them damaging your walk-away position.
Defending Never appear desperate for agreement: you will only lose.
This is not exactly what you meant. In fact, it is a different way of thinking about the crucible. It is a way of getting your spouse to act instead of letting her/him engage in foot dragging. And it only works if you are prepared to walk away.
SM
"If we will be quiet and ready enough, we shall find compensation in every disappointment." Henry David Thoreau
