In a way I did mean it to sound like its up to her. Now let me clarify that....
I realize that its all about eqaulization. Both working together to meet somewhere in the middle. BUT......I can't necissarily figure out how you go about showing love to me, I can only tell you how I would most like to be loved. If Hairdog has expressed to her how he wants to be loved then it IS up to her to find a way to express it so that it meets his need. Either that or it is up to her to "counter offer" so to speak so that they can begin to meet in the middle.
