I'm not trying to be stubborn or difficult here (really, I'm not)...I still just can't buy the generalization. The way I see it there are still two blatant sides of the coin.
I would as an objective person say that Hairdogs wife is a definite Taker. Ahhh...but the thing is...you aren't being objective. Sure, someone sitting on the HD side of things would probably view her that way...I would be inclined to say the same thing...but if I'm honest about it, as the HD person in my marriage I'm not objective either.
For instance . . . I would as an objective person say that She expects her needs to be met with little apparent thought of reciprocation unless it is convenient to her. Perhaps she views him as "needy" and therefore she feels like he's trying to take, take, take all the time too. (Sorry Hairdoggie for using you as an example here).
Therefore she doesn't Give to provide equalibrium in the marriage. Ok, I'm pretty sure you didn't mean it to sound this way...but that statement reads as though it's up to her to find the happy medium...not up to both of them. Did I misunderstand you? I apologize if I did...it's just how it reads to me. If I didn't misunderstand you that just supports my thinking that it's very difficult for us to remain "objective".
