Oh boy, another thread where we get to generalize about our LDSes! Let me be the first to jump in by saying my W is definitely a giver, Big Time. She gives to the kids, she gives to her mom, she gives plenty to me, just not exactly what I want. She gives until it hurts. So, no, your generalization doesn't work for me.
Many LDSes would retort "Why is it that my S won't give me x, y, and z? Why no EC?" So who is giving in that case?
Let me take your ball and give it opposite spin: Maybe your S gets more than she needs from the R. Maybe she thinks you're being needy. Maybe if you gave less to the R she wouldn't even notice. Are you giving because you like giving but are getting resentful because your S isn't as giving? Or are you giving in the spirit of hoping for a quid pro quo (my, I'm full of foreign phrases today!)? Either way, you have to fix your own attitude about why you are giving. Would giving less make you feel better or worse?
SM
"If we will be quiet and ready enough, we shall find compensation in every disappointment." Henry David Thoreau
