You have an interesting point. But I think your point is one of perspective. We all give/take in different manners.
For example...I feel I'm constantly giving in our marriage. I often feel I'm doing the bulk of the work. I've learned recently though that my LDH gives/takes in a very different manner than I do. I'm pretty darn sure that if my LDH were asked if he was a giver he'd definitely say yes!
I guess that the difference in our styles of giving would be this...I'm more of a nurterer...I'm there for him emotionally and want that emotional connection that is enforced/promoted by ML. He is a provider...his definition of "giving" is materialistic and that perspective has been reinforced by some of his past relationships where he was used strictly for money. He was also put down constantly and deprived of sex (it was used as a weapon and often withheld completely for over a year at a time). He is now having to learn how to give emotionally and understand that ML with me is an integral part of meeting my emotinoal needs. Let me tell you that's a very difficult thing for someone to suddenly have to learn in their forties. He's making a stellar effort though
This is JMHO on this topic though...I'm sure you'll get many more perspectives from other people who are more wise than I.
