Well, I just typed for 5 minutes giving you a quick update to where I am now-in-days, but decided there really isn't any reason in rehasing old news - tis a new day!
However, can't resist a nutshell update: Met a wonderful man, kids love him, 2 months after dating the kids asked him to marry me, worked through a ton of ca-ca with the X and am at a place that I am in love with me and my life. If you read my old story, no my family still isn't speaking to me, but my X, my new guy (whom I married in July) and I have a WONDERFUL relationship. We all email or phone daily about the kids and what's going on with them and so on. I got to a place that I knew these were the relationships that I needed to invest myself in.
Ok...now that is outta the way...
I guess what I tried to say before is that I see both of your sides. You would be gettin' on my nerves with all your "heavy" talk (which is the only way I really know how to describe it) and pushing me away making me cringe whenever I saw an email from you (speaking from experience here...)
I know it's tough Hairy, I've been on both sides of the fence. Let me ask you this: You say your humor tends to fall flat on her - but how would it make YOU feel? Would it give you a better outlook? Make things seem not so heavy and in turn maybe change you some? I am NOT suggesting that in any way you back away from what you need, want, desire etc, Remember when your kids were little and you wanted them to eat? Dang it, you knew they needed to eat, they knew they needed to eat, but no matter what they were NOT going to open their mouths leading both of you pissy and covered in strained peas...but did you ever play the airplane game? ever act like you were eating some and yumyum loved it? ever act silly and lighten the mood enough to get a bite in?
I guess now that I'm removed from it and can see it from afar it makes perfect sense to me...
Heck, you aren't planning to go anywhere right now, so why not have fun in the mean time? The very least that could happen is she gets pissy from you eating your peas in an airplane hanger
I'm here all day....
p.s. I think there's more of my story, if you're truly bored and looking for something to do under "stillmightymom". I had forgotten my password...
