Hi Hairy...I haven't posted in a long long while, but I'm sure my story is still there somewhere.
For almost a year now I've been a lurker, reading and watching as everyone's story unfolded. I quit posting after only a few times as I was the WAS and the reaction I received from some was a little more than I could bear...
However, I've read your story and keep up with your stich...and for whatever reason, I felt the need to have my password re-emailed to me so that I could login to reply to you.
Can I ask you something? How would your wife react if you answered or reacted to her with humor instead of always being downtrodded? By this I mean "heavy" answers? Does that make sense? My ex was this very way - everything to him was serious and deep and heavy - a major turn off for me (despite all our other mess, this was a major push away). It got to the point that I avoided him like a plague because we couldn't have a normal conversation without heavy talk being introduced. Do I feel that it's necessary? Yes, certainly there are times for that - but doesn't it need to get to a point FIRST that you can have a conversation with closeness? Does any of that make sense?
I really do know what I'm trying to say...even if I am suckin' at trying to say it...
I feel for you - I do understand the struggles that my X went through trying to be close to me (which obviously didn't happen since he's the X)...but I also understand the breathing room I needed from all the "heavy" talk...
I hope this helps. Maybe it will, maybe it won't but I had to add my $.27
