HP said:
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Are you saying that her love language is WOA and instead of talking her UP with his words, he is tearing her down (I want more sex) and this is having a disastrous effect on the marriage?
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I certainly think that is a large part of their communication issue.

I am ignoring HD's needs right now in order to establish a baseline for acceptable behavior in their relationship. Until he can establish parameters for communication in a trustworthy manner, she is not likely to address HD's needs. HD is here, so he gets to go first :-)

HP said:
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Hairy's wife seems to really light up when he praises her and tells her what a good attorney she is so maybe this is an area to work with. Not very Schnarchian but there's more than one way to skin a peach, right NOP!
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Heh, heh. You are right, HP. It doesn't matter what tool is used as long as the work gets done in a timely fashion, and it is high time that HD got his wife back.

All the best,
-NOPkins-

I will ferret out an affair at any opportunity.

-An affair is the embodiment of entitlement, fueled by resentment and lack of respect.
-An infidel will remain unreachable so long as their sense of entitlement exceeds their ability to reason.