Quote: Corri said: ------------------- I think your advice is great. Just my opinion, but I don't think this is going to work yet... not because it isn't sound reasoning, but because HD's wife wants to punish, not fix. She wants to be victimized, not accountable.
Given her mindset, I believe a C can help him figure out the best way to help her by first helping himself. -------------------
You may be right, it might not work.
Even if it doesn't, when Harry approaches counseling, he can do so with a clear conscience, knowing that he isn't dragging a boat load of his own garbage to the situation. A clean slate so to speak.
The other consideration is that she will expose herself and her real issues in a way that hasn't been possible previously, or that has been only opaquely visible due to muddy waters.
That was my logic for what it's worth.
Ah. I see. Eliminates damaage and potentially builds trust just through repetition and reinforcement. There really isn't anything else he can do....
...except buy the Boundaries book and go see a shrink to help him vent HIS frustration and get professional help on forming a game plan.
Okay everyone, we've decided that moving to the basement is NOT a good idea, for now... 100 lashes with a wet noodle to Corri for ever suggesting such a thing...
