HD wrote:
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I told her I appreciated her making all the arrangements for our weekend trip to St. Louis. She said, "you're just saying that because I told you I wanted to be appreciated." Sigh, can't win for losing. I told her that, while her talk with me may have made me voice my appreciation, I felt that appreciation nevertheless, as I always do for the things like this.
W: It's like me saying, "say you're sorry" and you say "sorry."
H: No, it would only be like that if you had said, "I did all the planning for St. Louis and wish your would thank me," after which I said, "thank you." I'm truly appreciative that you undertook the planning of the trip. Why can't you just accept my thanks easily?
W: Well, thanks for pointing out my shortcomings.
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HD.
She said, "you're just saying that because I told you I wanted to be appreciated."

The correct response is;
"No, I said it because I love you very much, and I am very sorry that I have been unappreciative of you in the past. Will you please forgive me?"

I am not talking doormat here, the fact is that she feels unappreciated by you.

Go back and try again.

:-)
-NOPkiins-

I will ferret out an affair at any opportunity.

-An affair is the embodiment of entitlement, fueled by resentment and lack of respect.
-An infidel will remain unreachable so long as their sense of entitlement exceeds their ability to reason.