Hey luvy, hope your head isn't spinning quite so viciously today. Dang, man, I don't think I ever saw so many people show up so quickly with so much advice on a thread in my life ever. I think you set a new record.
Convo with the wife on the St. Louis trip... LOL! Stay out of her sandbox, HD. When she said, 'you're just saying that...' let it drop!! Don't engage. You can't win anway, so save yourself some sanity and stay out of her madness. There is no need for argument over who doesn't appreciate whom and who doesn't say thank you or compliment genuinely enough.
"I have no doubt that is the way you see it..." and move on. She can't control you unless you engage.
She can't control you unless you engage.