Don't apologize, SoCal. Believe me, I have debated the pros and cons of this in my "best interests of the children" argument in my head many times.
I really appreciate Nopkins' advice. What is 30 more days of this going to matter? I tend to be a procrastinaor anyway, and it has worked for me pretty well over the years. It's when I rush into things that problems tend to arise...like marriage.
I'm calmer today. W was pretty preoccupied with a trial she is having today, so not much focus on the R, which is fine.
I told her I appreciated her making all the arrangements for our weekend trip to St. Louis. She said, "you're just saying that because I told you I wanted to be appreciated." Sigh, can't win for losing. I told her that, while her talk with me may have made me voice my appreciation, I felt that appreciation nevertheless, as I always do for the things like this. W: It's like me saying, "say you're sorry" and you say "sorry." H: No, it would only be like that if you had said, "I did all the planning for St. Louis and wish your would thank me," after which I said, "thank you." I'm truly appreciative that you undertook the planning of the trip. Why can't you just accept my thanks easily? W: Well, thanks for pointing out my shortcomings.
Do you sense a pattern here? Still, I held onto myself and didn't point out to her that, indeed, she does not accept my thanks, or my compliments, very well at all. But I knew I could biitch about that to you folks this morning instead, and it would get a better result than biitching about it to her.
Thanks again for all the wonderful, if contradictory and confusing advice!
