I agree that she does need to be held close, whether she says she wants it or not. I think that the worst thing you can do right now is push her away.
There is some reason for her insecurity. The telling you that you need to love her regardless of the sex is in a way, a cry for help. She doesn't want you to love her conditionally. She doesn't want to say, "love me and I will give you sex".
Her telling you that she really wasn't jealous is just face saving. She was indeed jealous of J.
A woman that just wants to control you does not move across the country, dumping her old job and identity just to take on a man and his two kids and a new job. If she did, then A&E wants to buy your story.
Is there something that you promised her before you were married that you have failed to deliver?
-NOPkins-
I will ferret out an affair at any opportunity.
-An affair is the embodiment of entitlement, fueled by resentment and lack of respect. -An infidel will remain unreachable so long as their sense of entitlement exceeds their ability to reason.
