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Then, I felt profoundly SAD .

Gee, HD there seems to be a lot of that going on.

I think it is important for your R to achieve some level of mutual acceptance. There is no hope of getting close as a couple without it. Can she accept that you are a sexual person? That you will never be happy with the marriage without a sex life? That the result of "agreeing to disagree" is that she will always get her way in this issue and that you will rarely get your way? I hope that your willingness to accept her lack of sexual desire acts as a window that allows her to see your situation with more compassion.

SM

"If we will be quiet and ready enough, we shall find compensation in every disappointment."
Henry David Thoreau