Corri said: -------------- ...... All I have to do is show up....... --------------
This is good.
Do expect him to get a bit miffed because his first misperception is going to be that you are failing to be a good wife. After he learns that it is not true, he will probably try to punish you in the bedroom (sexually) by withholding :-)
At some point in time, he will ask you, in earnest, and with a heart ready to understand, just what the hell is going on. Have a nice answer prepared. Keep it short and simple so he can understand it through his frustration.
I don't think it is going to take very long for him to wake up.
You are an excellent wife, Corri.
-NOPkins-
I will ferret out an affair at any opportunity.
-An affair is the embodiment of entitlement, fueled by resentment and lack of respect. -An infidel will remain unreachable so long as their sense of entitlement exceeds their ability to reason.
And an inspiration...I hope you don't mind a slight hijack, just for a second, then I'll be quiet...thanks!! You reminded me of what happened last night - we were watching TV, and H asked if there was any 'fresh' coke (I had made him a snack, but the bottle of coke I brought out was apparently a little flat)
M: Yes, downstairs.
H: looks at me strangely...gets up in a huff, 'You mean I have to go get it myself?'
Thanks for reminding me, Corri, I guess I had a slight breakthrough after all this week!
(I'm going to tell H you said that when he withholds sex from me. Now how well does that work with an LD wife, I ask you?
Hairdog and Madfrog:
Oh my... you rhyme. I think Hair Day is a wonderful title. We can all go over to Hairdog's basement to celebrate... sit in his hot tub, drink cocktails, and light sparklers. MM can bring the posters and we can all hang them up when we are perfectly sotted.
We'll all have to save our pennies to fly Flute over from Finland to join in. She can leave a case of Coke behind for her H until she gets back.
Honey, if that baby ain't here by the time I get back, I will cry a river right along with you.
You know what Corri? It's not an analogy. It's a way of presenting the problem to your H in a language he understands. He does not have the authority to delegate showing affection to Corri to someone else. The only one who has that authority is you!
If you tell him he has been treating you as an employee by delegating the marriage to you, he'll probably object strenuously. But when you give him specific examples, he might be able to see it.
Showing affection for your spouse is part of the job description. It's in the contract.
SM
"If we will be quiet and ready enough, we shall find compensation in every disappointment." Henry David Thoreau
(I'm going to tell H you said that when he withholds sex from me. 
Now how well does that work with an LD wife, I ask you?