I am here to tell you twins ( I have 2 sets, 18 months apart) are a JOB!!! I don't remember whether it truly affected my sexual feelings....but I do know for a fact that I was EXHAUSTED!!!
My suggestion would be to help her out as much as feasibly possible...and remember that sometimes new moms really get into the MOM role and forget that there is a sexual side to them. When you have your children wanting and needing things from you on all levels, and then your H wants you to it can be overwhelming.
Have you taken her away for a weekend of rest and relaxation? Maybe a nice massage... some massuese's come to your house...you could put the children in bed for the evening, light some candles and soft music , let her get a massage ... don't get your heart set on this meaning she will be wanting to jump in bed .... but you never know.
Just a thought, twins are a blast when they are little in and even more fun when they are grown. Mine are 22(daughters/identical) and 20 (son/daughter). I had both sets before I turned 20 and I remember how exhausted I was. I was taking care of the children during the day until my X got home and then I would run out the door to college(full time) and then work until 3-4 in the morning. Hang in there with this...... different schedules is hard to do too.
