Hi, DBR, welcome to the bored. The web site is "Divorce Busting", but from the description of your situation, I can tell you that you have come to the right place.

If I told you that having a spouse reject you on a regular basis is normal, would it make you feel better? Probably not, but you are in good company. I can't help you from personal experience. But I can tell you that it is good that you are trying to solve the problem now, because it can always go from once a month to never.

There are a ton of people on this bored who have made progress on their situations. Maybe if you elaborated on yours, they could give you the benefit of their experience.

SM

"If we will be quiet and ready enough, we shall find compensation in every disappointment."
Henry David Thoreau