Everybody is different as to what they need or want. One thing I have done is actually determine what my needs are. My needs are in this order #1 Sexual Fulfillment #2 Affection #3 Recreational Companionship. Right now my wife gets an "F" in all three. The things that you mention are appreciated by me, but they do absolutely nothing to fill my love tank. Also, a SSM is not about frequency, it is 100% about desire! Sex without true desire is pointless to me. I want my original wife back, I have no interest in my current wife. Think about it, how many guys would actually date a women that says she is LD, so why should us guys put up with it AFTER marriage.
