I hate to say this, but I have not seen much success on these boards when trying to restore a women to HD. In fact I have to question if it is even possible. The HD personality is VASTLY different from the LD personality. I have seen BOTH in my own wife. It is a Lifestyle, it is not about sex only. People think that if the frequency goes up that they have made major strides, when in fact they have only made step 1 of about 20 steps on the way to success.
The worst part about this is trying to stay positive and actually want to work on the situation when I can not believe that my wife can make enough change to even be marginally acceptable. I would like GREAT sex everyday, she never wants sex. Can she get to every other day? Highly unlikely. Can she get to 2 times a week? Doubtful. How about twice a month? Maybe. Will she act like she desires me physically? I REALLY doubt this is ever possible from her. I have read tons of books about sex and they all pretty much say that a huge chunk of the female population will NEVER be able to really desire. They all pretty much say that to have ANY kind of sex life, the guy will have to accept a LOT of rejection and the guy will literally have to provide all the passion for TWO people. This really bites! I wish there were some real success stories to keep me motivated.
