The love you initiate...

[sage]

I wonder if just flat-out telling your H that it's important to be able to share your interest in X with him would clue him in a little better.

Hmmm...sometimes "flat out telling" h stuff doesn't work well or is it that I THINK I'm doing that but I'm really being indirect? (and that drives him crazy!)

One thing that's absolutely true is that I ASSume he doesn't want to hear about stuff, don't talk about it and then get mad what a doofus! So, I need to start talking more about the things that interest me and depersonalize his reactions if they aren't as I expect/hope.

Went to the movies last night ("I heart huckabees") and then out to dinner. This will probably sound strange but something seems to be going on with h...he seems, what, cautious? wounded? a bit fragile? I'm trying to stay out of interpretation mode...(really, I am!) but in weaker moments it's worrying me a bit. If he were being gruff I'd say he's got itchy butt but it's almost like he feels sad? Maybe going to the first game of the World Series will cure his woes (if they actually exist and i'm not projecting all over the place)

He's downstairs making us both lunch

Here's my cainercast for the week...I like it...a good reminder:

Some people say that seeing is believing. Actually, though, not-seeing is believing. We don't need to believe in the things we know. We only need to believe in the things we're not quite so sure of. Don't waste precious time or energy doubting the people who you know have your best interests at heart. Don't start questioning your own sanity or wondering whether the decisions you made in the past were as wise as you had hoped at the time. Don't decide that you are in your current situation by mistake. It's obvious that some things are, and were right. All you have to believe is that they will remain right... and they will!

Sage