Quote: h told me last night that he loves when I sit on the couch and read while he's watching TV.
Something I need to learn to do more of, as well. Intimate separateness, as the book H2H recommended (What Could He Be Thinking?) calls it.
I wonder if just flat-out telling your H that it's important to be able to share your interest in X with him would clue him in a little better.
Or, I know that when I face the same noninterest in things, I just notch up the perky factor and smile a lot while I'm talking. It gives S. a high to see me smiling, and he gets excited that I'm excited, even if he's not that interested in what I'm talking about. I guess this falls under Acting As If - acting as if your H is going to fall out of his chair in excitement when he hears you tell it.
