Oh, dear, let me clarify, and from here on I'll take this over to my thread as it pertains to the other stuff I posted (thanks for your visit, Betsey, and it's so good to see you back on the BB!) to avoid the prolonged hijack. Thank you, Sage, for the momentary air space.
I didn't mean that I NOW expect something in return. I meant that before, in the old R, I got angry and resentful and stopped the gifts (not having made it here yet ). I never started back, because I got into the habit of squelching. Back in the old R, S. viewed anything from me as suspect because he was holding me at arm's length and any leeway he gave me I took and ran with. Hence the suspicion at gifts, which in turn led to my resentment. Yes, there was all kinds of expectation wrapped up in my gifts back then.
Anyway, some of the above I was definitely carrying over from the old R, and I appreciate the demi-whacks. I agree wholeheartedly with both of you, I was just attempting to make another point and got sidetracked and I think my head came off somewhere in there. I was really just trying to respond to
Quote: (well, I haven't been focused on GIFTS so I hope THAT doesn't turn out to be a biggie!) is less about trying to meet them every day and more about recognizing that focusing just on 1 or 2 doesn't necessarily work in the LONGER term for us.
and got twisted up there.
Anyway, thanks again for the patience during this hijack ... now back to our regularly scheduled program...
). I never started back, because I got into the habit of squelching. Back in the old R, S. viewed anything from me as suspect because he was holding me at arm's length and any leeway he gave me I took and ran with. Hence the suspicion at gifts, which in turn led to my resentment. Yes, there was all kinds of expectation wrapped up in my gifts back then.
... now back to our regularly scheduled program... 
