Whoa, girl! Going to ask a question for clarification because I'm not sure I'm reading this the way you intended?
Are you saying that by speaking his LL, you were expecting him to reciprocate? And when he didn't speak yours, it made you feel resentful? What prevents you from giving him gifts?
I don't want to make any assumptions here. But if that is the case, I think it's time to back up a bit.
I think the point of speaking in their LL (depositing into their love bank) is still worthwhile. One day you will see the fruits of your labor if all things are equal. Now, if he chooses not to speak in your language because he's still mired in resentment, I think that bears some discussion.
But where does Chapman say you should not continue to do things for him because they make you happy, even though that is not their primary language?
Over time, I've come to realize that although Mr. Wonderful and I both receive in one language, we both give in Acts of Service. We do things for others because it makes us happy. Translating to you, you give gifts because you are thoughtful and show others by giving them something tangible.
If he has told you that the gift giving bothers him, I would rather advocate finding out the why behind it? Try and find the feelings associated with the statement? (Could it be he thinks you expect something in return? )
Then find a way to let him know that you plan on giving him what he needs to show him you love him, but that giving gifts makes you happy and is not meant to make him uncomfortable.
I see a real opportunity for some good communication here. Keep going...
Betsey
"There are only 2 ways to live your life. One is as though nothing is a miracle. The other is as though everything is a miracle."
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Betsey 
