Interesting to think about Gifts. I am a gift-giver... I love to buy little things that make me think about somebody and give them to him/her, so in the beginning of my R, I did this. They were never reciprocated, and in fact they were somewhat misunderstood (as in, Why are you buying me this kind of feeling), so I stopped.
Now, I wonder if I had just become more adept at speaking to him through gifts, if he wouldn't be more inclined to reciprocate (because I LOVE to be brought little romantic things - nothing expensive, just a flower, or a funny somehting or other...)
Anyway, I post all this not to talk about ME, but to highlight that it's hard to do a LL that is your own, when it isn't AT ALL your partner's... so what do you do, squelch your desire to give gifts? I found myself very resentful about this - it made me angry that I felt S. was "preventing" me from doing what is a big LL for me.
