Sage, you continue to inspire me, as well as serve up many good ideas to try in my own sitch.
My SO's primary LL is WOA, and I have struggled with this one bec. it isn't on the top of my list. However, I have found that if I combine the WOA concept with the M/V concept of men needing Acceptance, Appreciation, Admiration, Approval, Encouragement & Trust, it has become easier. That is, WOA can fall in any of those M/V categories. And I have found that Appreciation is a big one for him. So I make sure to appreciate all the things that he does for me now, and sometimes even in the past. I admire how hard he works, or how he handled a situation that he tells me about (& I stop short of giving unasked for advice! ), and his sailing ability. And so on...
It has become much easier to find WOA - particularly after making the list (which I add to all the time) of what I love about him. It serves as a reminder.
Quote: I guess I DO know this...regardless of whether I'm focusing on 1, 5 or 7...what REALLY works for me is turning my focus outward ("what am I giving") as opposed to inward ("what am I GETTING"). Focusing on meeting h's needs just WORKS and also succeeds in getting my needs met.
I couldn't agree more! The book I mentioned on Eyesopened's thread (I think on your's too) is absolutely spot on in that area. It has so helped me focus on giving, & on being the best me. It is so inspirational.
Glad you're enjoying the Lost Art of Listening. I got a lot out of that one and it was a quick read!
), and his sailing ability. And so on... 
