The love you initiate...

[sage]

So what's the solution? Know what you want, and then ask for it. I have a really hard time with this (Southern upbringing, etc.). I would MUCH rather someone read my mind and NOTICE that I want/need something. I'd sometimes rather cut off my feet than ask for something. BUT... how else are we going to get it, unless we are married to a male version of ourselves (and how awful would THAT be?!).

I am SO this way...I find it so difficult to ask for what I want...and when I DO I get all tangled up and make it HARDER for the person to say "yes" -- definitely an area for me to, um, enhance and grow in.

Sage