Well, Sage, I have to say, as someone who "wants to be wanted," we can't help what our LL are, and as the book says, our tank gets low when they are not being fulfilled. So when (in my case) I don't get any affection upon waking up in the a.m., or when I don't get enough attention, I can rationalize this to myself as "it's not the time, and just be patient," but my tank gets a little lower just the same.
So what's the solution? Know what you want, and then ask for it. I have a really hard time with this (Southern upbringing, etc.). I would MUCH rather someone read my mind and NOTICE that I want/need something. I'd sometimes rather cut off my feet than ask for something. BUT... how else are we going to get it, unless we are married to a male version of ourselves (and how awful would THAT be?!).
