Hey everyone! I'm so glad that you found the posting helpful. (whats_next...I will definitely try to stop by over the next day or so -- hellish day today!)
It's funny (NOT) that the "ink was barely dry" on my post before I found myself in a conversation where the first thing I said was "I only have a few minutes" It was a conversation that I did NOT want to have (with that guy who is so awful to me occasionally -- he needs SO MUCH face time with me -- and so much of it is unpleasant -- that I loathe talking with him). Anyway, I caught myself and spent the rest of the conversation really trying to stay present and getting into his "movie".
Had a good night with h. He sent me an email saying that he had had a terrible day, that he needed a hug AND a drink and would I meet him. Of course I said YES. I think that the full force of the second year of law school hit him like a ton of bricks yesterday -- coursework, the law review, recruiting and he volunteered to help out with a mock trial -- so much going on = high stress!
As for h's LL, I think I did well...
QT: meeting him on the spur of the moment, sharing good food and drink, talking about school, etc.
AOS: Hmmm...picking him up seemed to be a positive for him. Did the dishwasher yesterday, too. I noticed two MAJOR areas of clutter this AM at home so I'm going to tackle those this weekend.
WOA: Thanked him for some things he had done...I also think that I was positive and affirming during the conversation we had last night
PI: Well...this is a funny one we had actually had "plans" for a romantic (wink, wink) evening and I alluded to it in an email...BUT...h was clearly SO STRESSED that it just wasn't a good time...he let me know over dinner how much he enjoys being with me, finds me sexy, etc...offering ressurance to me (which I love!)...SO...in some ways I think I met his PI needs by NOT meeting them, ya know?
h sent me an email this AM thanking me for being so supportive ... I responded with appreciation for him letting me know that...I DO really appreciate it because I need feedback on what's good/what's not so good in the "comfort" department.
I've got meetings ALL day so I probably won't be back much today Sage
Relax. Appreciate. Be calm. Laugh. Enjoy. Be secure. Be loving. Be loved. Don't personalize. Don't ASSume. Accept. Be grateful.
It was a conversation that I did NOT want to have (with that guy who is so awful to me occasionally -- he needs SO MUCH face time with me -- and so much of it is unpleasant -- that I loathe talking with him). Anyway, I caught myself and spent the rest of the conversation really trying to stay present and getting into his "movie".
we had actually had "plans" for a romantic (wink, wink) evening and I alluded to it in an email...BUT...h was clearly SO STRESSED that it just wasn't a good time...he let me know over dinner how much he enjoys being with me, finds me sexy, etc...offering ressurance to me (which I love!)...SO...in some ways I think I met his PI needs by NOT meeting them, ya know?
