Quote: "In the 6 months OF the EA, I felt X, Y and Z during the conversations where you brought up your fears and I lied to you".
I think this is one of the most important things for me to know, too. "My" OW is a friend, too, and so it is a very slippery slope. They've been at it for years, on and off, wishing and hoping, mourning "them," etc. What makes it different now? This is why I want to talk to S. about it.
How capable are our Hs of using different strategies of dealing with fear/pain/whatever? This is when talking about what happened and why can dissolve some of these fears. Although... I'm still not sure it actually works.
As I posted to your other thread, does talking about it just reassure you that you are right and you were wronged? I know the answer can't be yes, entirely, but it is something to think about.
