Oh Sage, I don't think it's selfish - It sounds very reasonable to me what you are looking for. In a sense it's like an insurance policy to guard against disaster. If we can name the feelings & thoughts that precede a wrong turn, we're more likely to stop the wrong turn from happening.
I asked the questions bec. I wondered if there was a different way to arrive at the same outcome. In other words, we've constructed a model whereby we need to talk about the past, about what led to that decision, to arrive at a map to avoid that same path again. Are they using a different model? One where they focus on what they want now, what decisions lead to that goal, and what behaviors are needed to achieve the desired outcome which they have come to decide is NOT the other path? So for them reviewing the past takes them off-track on the way to the current goals.
I have no answers, unfortunately... Having seen the trend on the board repeatedly, where talking about the A. often leads to backslides, arguments, & negatives, I began to ponder if we were stuck in a rigid model (or tunnel) that isn't working. While I believe the goals of our model are valid, I wondered how we might look at through a different model.
Anyways, no need to go along pondering with me - it just might be my needless mental gymnastics!
BTW, I think your keeping track of your efforts at H's LL is GREAT!
